Relational Trauma & Early Attachment Injury Therapy in Bozeman, Montana & Colorado

Before we could speak, we learned what connection felt like. Through the eyes, tone, and presence of our caregivers, we came to know whether closeness felt safe or something to protect against. When those early bonds were inconsistent, intrusive, neglectful, or absent, the nervous system adapted to survive. These early attachment injuries can shape the way we relate to love, conflict, trust, and belonging well into adulthood.

Relational trauma isn’t always obvious. Most will actually have a very “normal” family life, looking from the outside in yet connection was hard, or we were neglected because a family member was going through their own mental health struggles or my parents worked a ton, or my caregivers gave me up.

Sometimes it shows up subtly, in patterns that repeat:

• Pulling people close, then pushing them away

• Over-giving or over-functioning in relationships

• A deep fear of abandonment or rejection

• Difficulty trusting, even when you want to

• Emotional numbness or detachment

• Intense guilt or self-blame when things go wrong

• Longing for connection but fearing it at the same time

Therapy offers a space to explore how your system learned to protect against relational pain and to gently rewire those patterns toward trust, safety, and self-leadership. In the end no ones is coming to save us but ourself, what would it be like to be the one there for that 9 year old you?

I integrate Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, and Brainspotting to help you access the deeper emotional and body-based layers of attachment trauma. These approaches don’t just analyze your past; they help the nervous system complete what was once interrupted, so new experiences of closeness can feel possible again.

As a therapist in Bozeman, Montana, offering secure online sessions throughout Colorado, I work with adults seeking to heal from early attachment wounds and relationship-based pain. Our work focuses on helping you cultivate internal steadiness, rebuild trust in your emotional landscape, and form relationships that feel mutual and grounded. Most importantly, reconnecting with ourself.